A Writer's Prayer

I used to pray You would make me wise,
Grant my ideas punch and size,
But as attempt after attempt went wide of the angle
I realized this prayer was too much to handle.

My brain is but a brain and my writing often terrible
You wouldn’t believe the edits to make even this presentable
My best writing moments name wifi networks and mixtapes
What useful skill does that best approximate?
No matter how smart I am, others are smarter
No matter how far I go, others have gone farther
They’ve seen and succeeded more than I ever will
When they're the measuring stick how else can I feel?

Then one day I resolved to turn on my captor
No matter what it protested was the matter
I wouldn’t give in to the failure of the minute
My brain would stay soft for whatever You sent it.
Aware and relaxed, my brain swerved past the fear
And after hours of waiting fresh words appeared
Freed from expectations, my mind saw anew
Ideas that surprised even me (who knew?)

My prayer today is far humbler than before
Just don’t let me look stupid or my writing a bore
Give my brain peace so a good story can be told
And forgive me for the sins that might stop this from being sold

The OJ Defense

When OJ Simpson was tried for double-murder in 1995, he hired the most expensive attorneys money could buy. He needed them. A glove with the murder victims’ blood had been found on his property, his hair was found on a victim’s shirt, and he had seemingly confessed in a suicide-ish note read live on television during the Bronco chase. 

But by the time the trial was underway months later, the certainty of events seemed to slip away. This was no accident. With the deck stacked against them, OJ’s attorneys adopted a strategy of sowing confusion in the minds of the jury and public. They attacked and questioned every fact. They threw endless mud against the wall, not caring what stuck. The goal was to create such an overwhelming amount of information that the basic facts of the case would be forgotten.

The prosecutors claim there’s DNA evidence against our client. Well, what are your credentials? Can you explain the science of DNA? Can you be more specific? How many people in California have DNA like the sample you claim matches my client? How about in the world? Where is the list of these people? Are the police even trying to solve this case?

It became hard to see through the fog.

Confusion was the first part of their strategy. The second part was to accuse the accusers. The police were the real criminals. After the defense showed that the lead detective had a racist history, the rest of the case was brushed with it. How can you trust anything they say when the investigators are biased against our client? It was all a plot to frame OJ.

By the end of the trial, everything about the case was perceived through the defense’s narrative. The questions overwhelmed the facts. 

The OJ defense is what Donald Trump is using to fight the Mueller investigation. He’s creating confusion about every fact. He’s accusing the accusers. And it’s working. Polls show that 53% of the population believes the Mueller investigation is politically driven and 61% of Republicans say the investigation is “unfair.” Both numbers are growing.

Trump is muddying the water to distract from the facts of the case. He instigated a dubious and showboating FISA warrant release, a confusing report about the FBI’s investigation into Hillary Clinton (that proved the opposite of what Trump claimed), and he makes frequent inflammatory attacks and threats against the FBI agents and officials in charge of investigating him by name. 

These are crazy things to do. But they have a purpose. They create confusion in the minds of Americans about whose investigation this is and what it’s even about. This worked for OJ. It's working for Trump too.

The Clinton Precedent

All four major US intelligence agencies (CIA, FBI, NSA, and Director of National Intelligence) and now the Senate Intelligence Committee have stated that Russia created an influence campaign to manipulate the 2016 presidential election for Donald Trump and the Republicans. It wasn’t subtle either.

Russia’s hackers broke into the email accounts of Trump’s opponent and leaked their contents to the media shortly after Trump said on live television, “Russia, if you're listening, I hope you're able to find the 30,000 [Clinton] emails that are missing. I think you will probably be rewarded mightily by our press.” He said this just weeks after the Trump Tower meeting between his staff and representatives for Putin. 

The Mueller investigation knows a lot more than we do. But even if Mueller creates an airtight case against Trump, he only has indirect influence on what happens from there. It’s up to the House of Representatives — 435 elected Congresspeople — to determine the President’s guilt or innocence of possible impeachable offenses.

This has only happened twice before in American history. Most recently in 1998, when President Clinton was impeached for perjury and obstruction of justice for lying under oath about a woman he had sexually harassed. It was a party-line vote: 221 Congressman (almost all Republicans) voted in favor of impeachment and 212 (almost all Democrats) voted against.

Clinton’s case then went to the Senate where votes from two-thirds of members are required to remove the President from office. The votes against Clinton fell well short (45-55 and 50-50), and he was acquitted. Clinton served two more years as President after being impeached. A period during which he had the highest approval ratings of his presidency. He was seen as the victim of a political witch hunt. The public likes a survivor.

In the two instances in American history when the President was impeached, the Senate failed to remove them from office both times. The parties stuck by their man and the President kept being President.

2018 midterms

In November, America will elect the jury that will decide the fate of Donald Trump. All 435 Congressional seats are up for election.

Impeachment is meant to function as a kind of trial where facts are heard and justice is determined. But like a lot of things in America, that’s not how things work anymore. The outcome will be determined by which party gets to cast more votes in the decision.

If Mueller’s findings are damning and there are more Democrats than Republicans in the House, Trump will be impeached. If the same thing happens and there are more Republicans than Democrats, Trump might not be tried at all. If Mueller's findings aren't damning and there are more Democrats than Republicans, Trump still might get impeached. The gulf between those outcomes shows what a poisonous situation we find ourselves in.

Americans have a direct say about this in November. But I fear we’re not yet looking at the midterm elections in their full context. I don’t think we’re prepared for what’s really at stake.

Assume for a moment that the charges of Russian meddling are true. That means there are politicians now in office, from the President on down, who knowingly benefited from an illegal manipulation of the 2016 election. The same people who have used the OJ defense to distract the public from whatever happened.

Think about this election from the perspective of those politicians. If they lose, they'll get caught for what happened in 2016. Democrats will have the majority in the House, and they’ll be in charge of launching investigations and impeachment. But if these alleged Russia-supported politicians win again, they’ll keep power and be able to stop any investigations, just as they're doing now.

If you cheated to get elected before, you're 1000 times more incentivized to cheat again. These politicians didn’t face any consequences the first time because they won. The only way to make sure it stays that way is to keep winning. And the way to do that is by cheating more.

Based on these incentive structures, the coming midterms could be the most manipulated in American history. In the 60 or so races that will determine who controls the House of Representatives and the fate of Trump, there's potential for disinformation campaigns, hacked emails, voter tampering, and so on. As long as the dirty candidates win, no one will do anything about it. 

2020 and beyond

I'm probably naive, but my money is still on Democrats squeaking out a slight majority in the House and Republicans continuing to control the Senate. So what would happen in that scenario?

In 2019, the House will launch impeachment proceedings against the President. This will be a messy and lengthy process. Like the OJ case, the circus to end all circuses. Trump’s defense will depend on confusion, distraction, and destruction. Whatever the cost to the country. Ugly won’t even begin to describe it. This could even be when a war gets started.

By 2020, the Democrat-controlled House will vote to impeach Trump. But the Republican-led Senate — where it’s impossible to get a two-thirds vote on anything — will not remove him from office. Even if Trump is impeached for treasonous acts, he’s likely to stay President. And, like Bill Clinton, potentially a more popular one than before.

Which leads to the unthinkable: that in 2020, the President of the United States will be impeached and run for reelection in the same year. And in that scenario, I’m certain that Trump will win.

By the end of the OJ trial, the two murder victims were a distant memory. The case wasn’t about them anymore. It was about OJ’s legal dream team, a racist LAPD, a cast of characters, and the 24-hour media that sprang up from it. The theater to determine the truth overshadowed the truth itself: that two people had been brutally murdered and justice had not been served.

OJ got away with it. Trump very well may too.

P.S. #1

There’s an unlikely move worth playing out. 

Republicans could choose to be bigger than politics and turn on Trump. They could lead the impeachment charge against him, all the while knowing that Vice President Mike Pence — more right-wing than Trump — is waiting quietly in the wings like a Westworld host in sleep mode. Republicans save the country and they stay in power. Win-win. But getting there means giving Democrats a victory in their fight against Trump, something the tribalism of today will not allow. 

This reveals an overlooked missed opportunity from the past: that Democrats could have asked Clinton to step down because of his poor values so Al Gore could become President with a clean slate. This was unthinkable at the time, but isn’t that what our values would demand if the Clinton scandal happened today? 

P.S. #2

Thinking ahead to a (distant) post-Trump world, I try to imagine what a Democratic or oppositional platform might be. And I keep coming back to something similar to what Republicans are doing now: that emotions will lead them to treat the moment as a giant “Undo,” erasing as much of what Trump has done as possible. A mirror of the Republican strategy in the post-Obama years.

I don't think this is a good idea.

Let’s say that happens. We'll then spend the next thirty years with each side undoing what the other has done. Where does that lead? How long can a society afford to repeat that cycle? How far behind will the US fall?

As distasteful as it will feel, post-Trump leaders should look to build on and evolve what he has done rather than just take an eraser to it. Progress doesn’t only come from making something good and pure. It also comes from making things better. We’re going to need a lot of that in the future.

Overshare podcast

I'm a guest on a new episode from the podcast Overshare. You can listen here.

The interview was at an interesting moment: about to leave New York City and trying to teach myself how to be a writer again. I enjoyed this conversation.

From the West Coast

Yesterday I had lunch with a friend. 

My friend had recently spoken with the CEO of a company that he wasn’t a big fan of. After talking to this person, the friend was pleasantly surprised to discover that the CEO was smart and nice. My friend was reassessing his feelings about the company as a result.

I listened to the story with interest. Then I asked a somewhat odd question. How important did he think it was to be smart and nice?

Look around. Aren’t most people you know nice? Aren’t most people you know smart? 

There's data to support the idea that people are smarter than they used to be. The Flynn Effect observes that our IQs have increased significantly over the past century. They're still rising. According to that metric, we’re smarter than ever. 

And yet consider the world around us. The problems we’re creating. The problems we’re ignoring. This happened even while people were getting smarter by the generation. And being super nice about it, too.

There’s no easy Other that we can honestly point to as the root of all evil. It’s not like there’s some island of supervillain a-holes who are responsible for everything bad in the world. (No Manhattan jokes, please.)  There’s just us.

This means that nice and smart people have played central roles in making the world worse. That might not have been their intention, but it was the outcome. Nice, smart people have done and will continue to do bad things.

In one of Hunter S. Thompson’s books he writes about a night in the late ‘60s when he picked up a longhair hitchhiker. Not long into the ride, Hunter discovers that the guy is a jerk. Hunter can’t believe it. Long hair had always been a signal for who he could trust. Now even the jerks had grown their hair out. His compass had to change.

Could it be the same with smart and nice?

Maybe social evolution — in overdrive thanks to social media — will make everyone nice. Being nice works to our advantage, so “nice” genes become more dominant. 

Sounds chill. But then how will we know what’s going on underneath the surface? Who’s really inside? 

The media framed the 2000 election between Bush and Gore as the contest to find “the guy you’d rather have a beer with.” But this is arguably the least meaningful lens through which to make a decision. It’s just the path of least resistance. Tell someone that what they feel is also what's right and rarely will they disagree.

In the long run, “nice” and “smart” might be traits we have to recalibrate on. If someone isn’t nice or smart that’s a negative, but if someone is nice or smart maybe it’s only a neutral quality rather than a positive one.

Like long hair, once everybody’s got it the signal means less.

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Last month my family and I left New York. As of a week ago, we’re living in Los Angeles.

Leaving NYC was a big deal. I lived there for 18 years. I love the city. I am a New Yorker.

When I think about what in life I’m most proud of, it’s moving to New York. I moved there right after college. Getting there had long been my dream.

New York was never easy but it treated me well. It’s where I started my career as a writer. It’s where Kickstarter happened. It’s where I made many great friends.

New York and I had a perfect goodbye. My last dinner was with an old friend at St. Anselm, my favorite restaurant. Afterwards we want to a DIY show in Queens. I was 26 again.

For my last meal the next morning, I went to the same deli in the Lower East Side where I went everyday for 15 years. I ordered the same egg-and-cheese sandwich on a toasted everything bagel. I said hi to the same guys who have worked there since I moved to Ludlow Street in 2002. I told them it was my last day.

After hearing the news, the two men came around from behind the counter and warmly patted me on the back and shoulders. They said they hoped this would be a good decision for my family and wished us well.

I cried. Standing there in the deli holding an aluminum foil-wrapped egg and cheese while two men showed me love, I had tears in my eyes. The only time I cried during my departure.

Shoutout to Happiness Deli, shoutout to egg and cheese sandwiches, and shoutout to New York City.

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Our reasons for coming to LA are unoriginal. A mix of weather, wanting change, and recognizing that this is a window before our child starts school when we can take chances. LA probably isn't our last stop but we’re having fun with it. 

And while we’re here, I’m writing a book.

Late last year I signed a book deal with Viking Press. I’ve been working on it full-time since November. My deadline to finish is the end of this year.

I’m enjoying the experience very much. I’ve given myself fully to it. When we were in New York, I spent day after day isolated in an empty apartment with no internet, just writing and reading. The depth of the work is pure pleasure and unlike anything I've done before. I look forward to working on it everyday.

So what's the book about? Well, it’s not a memoir and it’s not about Kickstarter. It’s a manifesto, and still in progress. I'll leave it at that for now. The book should come out late next year. 

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Before coming to LA, my wife and I went to the TED conference in Vancouver. Of all the talks, something that a philosopher named Will MacAskill said about the age of humankind stuck with me the most.

MacAskill said that if you compare Homo Sapiens to other species on Earth, humans are the equivalent of ten years old in our lifespan. We are very early in our lifecycle. Not even adolescent. 

There should be many tens of thousands of years of human history ahead of us. But we act like this is the last party — who cares if anybody cleans anything up? Which, now that I think about it, does sound like the behavior of a ten-year-old. I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

Seeing life on the right timescale is very valuable and hard to do. Jeff Bezos shared something in the most recent Amazon annual shareholder letter that puts it well. He writes:

A close friend recently decided to learn to do a perfect free-standing handstand. No leaning against a wall. Not for just a few seconds. Instagram good. She decided to start her journey by taking a handstand workshop at her yoga studio. She then practiced for a while but wasn’t getting the results she wanted. So, she hired a handstand coach. Yes, I know what you’re thinking, but evidently this is an actual thing that exists. In the very first lesson, the coach gave her some wonderful advice. “Most people,” he said, “think that if they work hard, they should be able to master a handstand in about two weeks. The reality is that it takes about six months of daily practice. If you think you should be able to do it in two weeks, you’re just going to end up quitting.” Unrealistic beliefs on scope – often hidden and undiscussed – kill high standards. To achieve high standards yourself or as part of a team, you need to form and proactively communicate realistic beliefs about how hard something is going to be.

To do anything as well as it should be done will take all of your effort. It means giving all of yourself until it's right. It means humbling yourself before it. 

This is the thing that we — multitasking our way through life — find hardest to do. We respect our own time but disrespect the time of the things that need doing. We do too much, we do it too fast. And when it doesn’t work we wonder why. 

The alternative is to give all of yourself to a small number of things. To turn things off, to say no, even to opportunity. It's a scary prospect. But it’s only through sacrifice and dedication that someone can make something worth making.

Nine books that moved me

When I was a music critic, the end of the year was a banner time. I spent Decembers making lists of favorite albums and mixes of favorite songs. It got so deep I even made a top ten list about top ten lists.

So what’s meaningful to “list” at this moment in life? For me, ideas and books. Here are nine that impacted me this year. 

1. Sapiens by Yoval Harari
2. The KLF: Chaos, Magic, and the Band Who Burned a Million Pounds by John Higgs

Sapiens is a mind-expanding history of the human race. Harari is our species' Tocqueville, writing with a startling distance about the history of humans. It’s like reading Mars’ greatest historian analyze our planet. It’s no exaggeration to say it changes how you see the world. 

John Higgs’ kinda-bio of the ‘90s electronic group The KLF creates a similar eureka about ideas and art. A good friend gifted it to me, describing it conspiratorially as “the little yellow book.” He was right. Alan Moore’s concept of the Ideaspace, which I learned about here, is something I became an instant believer in.

Sapiens and The KLF establish that ideas are more powerful than anything. Ideas uniquely change how we relate to one another, how we craft our physical environment, pretty much everything. These books helped me better understand their power. They filled me with optimism — even in 2017.

3. Generation X by Douglas Coupland

I knew the name (which this book introduced) but until this year I never read this 1991 novel. It’s a series of conversations between three formerly status-oriented people who dropped out and moved to Palm Springs to work in jobs “beneath” them. The writing is crisp and the ideas challenge three decades later. Short, funny, and very alive.

4. The Three-Body Problem by Liu Cixin
5. The Dark Forest by Liu Cixin

I’m two books into the Remembrance of Earth’s Past trilogy, a series by Chinese sci-fi author Liu Cixin. The story is unlike anything I’ve read. If you have interest in sci-fi, read these. So far the series has changed the way I think about contacting non-Earth life, the potential of indirect forms of communication, and the living soul at the heart of true fiction. These books visited me in my dreams and still do.

6. Beatles 1966 by Steve Turner

A monthly diary of the year the Beatles released Rubber Soul; wrote, recorded, and released Revolver; and wrote and recorded a chunk of Sgt Pepper’s. The greatest single-year artistic leap in modern times. 

How did it happen? Read this and you get a feel. The anecdotes are tremendous. John and Paul playing “Tomorrow Never Knows” for Dylan and the Stones in a hotel suite shortly after recording it. When it ends, Dylan says to them with a sneer, “Oh I get it — you don’t want to be cute anymore.” 

Paul’s first vacation as a Beatle is another. Paul changed his appearance before driving across Spain and parts of Africa to be incognito. Upon returning, he told the other Beatles they needed to change their identities before getting back into the studio. Making another Beatles record would be too hard. They needed the freedom of being someone else. This is where Sgt Pepper's came from.

It will inspire you to open your antennae up wide.

7. Age of Fracture by Daniel T. Rogers
8. Stranger Than We Can Imagine by John Higgs

Age of Fracture recounts the academic and social battles that drove the rise of feminism, individualism, racial identity, and other seismic social changes. The POV is unique: both broadly historical and a closely tracked blow-by-blow of ideas and counter-ideas. No book created a bigger or more meaningful reading list.

Stranger Than We Can Imagine is the second John Higgs entry on this list (he also wrote the KLF book). It details the emergent ideas of the 20th century that transformed the Victorian world into the industrialized, democratized, and way more confusing universe we live in now. Everything from physics to the avant-garde to sex.

Both titles come to a similar conclusion: the theme of the 20th century is relativity. A growing realization that the values and ideas many assumed were universally “true” were anything but. Some may say these are aberrations of the late 20th and early 21st centuries. These books counter that the universality of certain beliefs in the past was the aberration, and that we should expect more of this in the years to come. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing. 

9. The 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing by Jack Reis and Al Trout

A wise and useful book from the ‘90s about putting things into the world. Each “law” is a short chapter in clipped, seasoned prose. You can smell the chainsmoke through the page.

Three laws that stayed with me: The law of line extension (when launching a new product don’t reuse your existing brand). The law of sacrifice (if you’re asking people to do something new, you must first make a sacrifice of your own). And the law of fads and trends (a trend is a fad with unsatisfied demand; when experiencing success keep them wanting more).

I’d love to hear what you read and learned this year. What books moved you?

baby you're my everything

I like to think (and
the sooner the better)
of a daily pledge
honoring the marvels
of civilization
cultivated by our ancestors
believing that all
destinations are
temporary

I like to think
(right now please!) 
of the breaking news alert
reading the corruption is total
and the only ones
with the courage to
end it are
the people
and Robert Mueller

I like to think
(it has to be!)
of millions of bodies
walking in silence
expressing shame for
our waste of
the gift of life
just to make
a little more money

What's your Uber rating?

Last weekend my wife, son, and I went to storytime at the library. Fifteen kids, twenty parents, a big mat on the floor. A perfect Saturday morning.

Then class starts. 

“After storytime today,” the teacher begins, “we would appreciate it if everyone could fill out a survey about our performance.”

My head jolts up.

“We would further appreciate you texting this number to give consent to be surveyed in the future,” she continues.  

“All of this is so we can make evidence-based decisions.”

My mouth falls open.

Trust is dying right now. It’s dying by side effect and design.

Distrust is at the heart of modern marketing. Trust our product not theirs. Trust this candidate not that one. Podcast ads preach fear of the middle man. 

This kind of marketing is nothing new. What is new is that the competition they’re advertising against is humanity itself. Talk to Siri and Watson not each other. Trust data not intuition.

These messages undermine trust in each other in order to increase trust in corporations and systems. The meta-message: Trust companies not people.

We’re so hungry for validation we go along with it. How hot did the algorithm say you are? Show me your score and I’ll you show mine.

Human trust is an aging incumbent. Commercial trust is a hot category. Last month Facebook acquired a company called tbh that lets people give each other anonymous feedback. The deal was reportedly for tens of millions of dollars.

Verification and data tracking systems create a new frontier for trust. There’s no need for clumsy interactions like the one in the library — the networks know everything. 

But who trusts those networks? After the Equifax hack, even trusting trust is an issue. We’re trending towards a climate of default distrust. 

Not to worry, thinks the technocratic product manager. We’ll whiteboard a new global verification system of truth and trust to fix it.

God help us if they succeed. Today’s solution is tomorrow’s bureaucracy.

An ideal approach trusts others enough to not demand trust in return. It acknowledges the importance of trust without trying to commoditize it. It promotes good decisions, not fear.

The blockchain is an encouraging platform for new concepts of trust. I root for a future that looks like Keybase, not a Black Mirror dystopia.

In the end we didn’t fill out the librarian’s survey. Our son took off running the second storytime ended. We didn't look back.

Habits and gear

Until recently I felt too busy to think about how I was getting things done. It was all about crossing off the next thing on the to-do list.

This is one of the first things I wanted to adjust after my job change. Here are eight shifts I've made to better direct my time and energy.

Wifi Off

When I’m writing I keep Wifi turned off. This creates enough friction to keep easy temptations at bay. It’s like I’m buying my brain flowers to apologize for all the times I mistreat it with schizophrenic multi-tasking. My brain is grateful. Yours will be too.

No pinned Chrome tabs

Chrome used to be my mind map. Pinned tabs for various email accounts, calendars, Google Docs, articles I intended to read, etc. This resulted in me working almost solely inside Chrome, which made the distracting between-tabs-clicks way too easy. 

I approached breaking free of Chrome in a few ways: 

1) Separate email and writing from Chrome.

2) Use bookmarks to design my browsing habits rather than mindless surfing.

3) Bookmark articles I’m interested in but don’t immediately read (to date I’ve gone back to read exactly zero of them, which says it all).

4) Keep open tabs to a minimum (no more than three or four, ideally).

After these changes my Chrome usage has plummeted. It’s no longer a default state. Now I look at the web when I have a reason to.

Airmail

To separate email from Chrome I shopped around for an email app. I picked Airmail because of its basic UI and how it handles multiple accounts. Parts of Gmail I miss, but overall the ability to be focused about correspondence has made a noticeable difference. Apple Mail can also do the trick, it’s just buggy for me.

Outlook for iPhone

I started using Outlook at the recommendation of Craig Mod. The design is soothing and non-attention getting. Calendar and contacts are effortlessly folded inside the app. Top notch.

Bear Writer

For writing I moved from IA Writer (which I like) and Google Docs to Bear Writer. I like Bear because of how easy it is to access my directory of writing, how quickly I can start a new note/doc, and syncing between the desktop and phone apps. 

One thing Bear has not helped as much with is recording spontaneous notes and ideas. I spend a lot of time walking around NYC finding inspiration. I’ve tried using Siri, notes to self, and other ways to take down a quick thought. None have worked the way I want. I’m considering going back to keeping a notebook in my pocket. Other ideas?

"The portable whiteboard"

I spend my working time with three things in front of me: my laptop, a stack of books I’m reading, and a 8.5" by 10” sketchpad and set of colored Sharpies. I call the sketch pad and markers my portable whiteboard. 

Whenever I need to outline an idea or think through something deeply, I turn to the portable whiteboard. The ability to think in a flexible, physical space is liberating. I have more breakthroughs using the portable whiteboard than my laptop or any other tool. Highly recommended.

Unfollow everyone on Twitter

It took me several tries to defeat my Twitter addiction. The first move — made a few years ago — was to remove Twitter and all social media from my phone. This ended my mobile usage, but increased how often I used Twitter on the desktop.

I would get trapped in Chrome loops: check Gmail, check Slack, check Twitter, check Gmail, etc. I could (and did) spend hours this way achieving absolutely nothing. It’s the productivity version of "playing" an arcade game without putting in a quarter.

Eventually I came up with a more drastic solution: unfollow everyone. This has been the best answer. Now Twitter is such an unsatisfying experience I rarely go there. I’ll continue to keep my account for self-promotion, but it’s no longer a source of information. To date I have experienced literally zero ill effects and many positive effects from not reading Twitter.

Squarespace

I’m a longtime Tumblr fan but the writing tools just aren’t great. I’ve used Medium but I don’t want to be associated with the startup/life hacker zeitgeist. The only way I could think to have a truly neutral space was to create my own. I tried Wordpress but the setup process was too involved (maybe the tenth time this has deterred me from WP). While not cheap, Squarespace is great. I'll keep using them. 

Any habits or gear recommendations to share? I’d love to hear them!

Nobody cares about you

We’re so good at undermining our confidence. We let imaginary voices water down our true nature. We live in a story where we’re the center of attention. 

There’s an even scarier truth: Nobody cares about you. Nobody is thinking about you. Everyone is too self-obsessed to care about anyone else.

Sure, your family and partner care. Some of your close friends. But even many of them care only to a point. They're too busy worrying about their own stories.

We fear people are waiting for us to trip and fall. Let's say that's true. Maybe 10% of people you know are happy to see you fail. So what? You’re probably happy to see them fail too. 

The other 90% of people? They already forgot your thing ever happened. They’re too busy thinking about themselves to think about you.

Go for what you really want. Nobody cares about you.